Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Pregnant, no job, and confused!?

I went through a bad divorce, that took 2 years to settle. I lived with my parents and changed my 2 children's school district. I have a new boyfriend now, who swept me off my feet. We didn't think we could have children after a year and hear to find out I had a cyst, got it removed and bam, I'm now 7 mo's pregnant. The judge awarded me the house of me and my ex-husband if I could prove I could get the loan. Now that I'm not woking I needed a co-signer, which so happens to be my boyfriend, who's name is also on the deed. 1st mistake, I know, but felt that it was only fair to put him on the deed being that he is the one that is making payments. I moved in with my boyfriend over the summer in his parents apartment, while we are rennovating the house. I'm not sure if it's my pregnancy hormones or what, but we have been fighting over the littlest stuff. Which ends up being big deals because whenever he does something that upsets me, he doesn't want to talk about it, and that makes me even more angrier. Well, to make a long story short things are going down hill very fast! I don't want to change my children's school districts again and move back in with my parents. I only chose to be with him because I never thought people could change so much! Like when we first started going out, he was super sweet and never wanted to leave my side. Which I don't expect now, but he does these little things that he knows upsets me and we don't spend any quality time together anymore. I've asked him if he still loves me and he says yes but I am having lots of doubts. Anyway we got into an argument the other day and I told him I was just going to move into the new house, even though it's not complete. He through a big fit and went to the bank to have my name removed off the mortgage, and has made an appointment to go to his lawyers to get my name off the deed. This really hurt me, because even though I didn't financially contribute to the house payments, we bought this house together. There is no heat at the new house, I would have to use electric heaters, and get the water hooked up. I talked with the istance office and I could get help with food and electric bill. Am I being to drastic? I can't find any other place in the school district to move to that I can afford right now, and this stress is not good for my kids, the baby, me or him. I just wish he treated me like the way he used to, especially now that I am pregnant with his child. Am I being too selfish? Can't believe I'm putting myself and children through a situation like this, but feel I don't know what else to do. Please help, any advice would be appreciated.

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